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San Bernardino County Dept of Behavioral Health: 888-743-1478 or 909-386-8256

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What is a Hate Crime?

Under California law, a hate crime is a criminal act committed because of any of the following actual or perceived characteristics or expressions of the victims: disability, gender, nationality, race or ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation; or because of the person’s association with a person or group with one or more of these actual or perceived characteristics.

What is a Hate Incident?

A hate incident is a hostile expression or action motivated by bias on the basis of race, color, disability, religion, national origin, sexual orientation, or gender, including gender identity.

Two kinds of hate incidents are 1) acts of hate that are not crimes but violate civil rights laws, and 2) acts of hate that may not violate the law but still cause significant harm in a community.

Sure, you're a survivor, but we want to help you THRIVE!

Being physically or verbally attacked or abused or discriminated against because of who you are or how you express yourself can damage someone!

BIPOC and LGBTQIA+ people know this from centuries of horror.

Abuse and Bullying can cause:

Increased Risk-taking
Physical and Mental Illness

If you’re worried about reporting your incident to the authorities, we can work with you and support you through your process!

If you've been a victim of a hate crime or bullying...

Family Assistance Program's team at Stop the Hate Anti-Violence Project can help you.

Our team is available to talk to your school, agency, community, business, etc. and work with them to understand bias, anti-lgbtqia+ hate, pronouns, micro-aggressions and the impacts and consequences of bullying.

Glossary of Identity Terms

Many Americans refrain from talking about sexual orientation and gender identity or expression because it feels taboo, or because they’re afraid of saying the wrong thing. This glossary was written to help give people the words and meanings to help make conversations easier and more comfortable. LGBTQ+ people use a variety of terms to identify themselves, not all of which are included in this glossary. Always listen for and respect a person’s self identified terminology.


A term used to describe someone who is actively supportive of LGBTQ+ people. It encompasses straight and cisgender allies, as well as those within the LGBTQ+ community who support each other (e.g., a lesbian who is an ally to the bisexual community).


Often called “ace” for short, asexual refers to a complete or partial lack of sexual attraction or lack of interest in sexual activity with others. Asexuality exists on a spectrum, and asexual people may experience no, little or conditional sexual attraction.


The fear and hatred of, or discomfort with, people who love and are sexually attracted to more than one gender.


A person emotionally, romantically or sexually attracted to more than one gender, though not necessarily simultaneously, in the same way or to the same degree. Sometimes used interchangeably with pansexual.


A person who is emotionally, romantically or sexually attracted to members of the same gender. Men, women and non-binary people may use this term to describe themselves.


Genderqueer people typically reject notions of static categories of gender and embrace a fluidity of gender identity and often, though not always, sexual orientation. People who identify as "genderqueer" may see themselves as being both male and female, neither male nor female or as falling completely outside these categories.

Gender binary

A system in which gender is constructed into two strict categories of male or female. Gender identity is expected to align with the sex assigned at birth and gender expressions and roles fit traditional expectations.

Gender dysphoria

Clinically significant distress caused when a person's assigned birth gender is not the same as the one with which they identify.


A person with a wider, more flexible range of gender identity and/or expression than typically associated with the binary gender system. Often used as an umbrella term when referring to young people still exploring the possibilities of their gender expression and/or gender identity.

Gender expression

External appearance of one's gender identity, usually expressed through behavior, clothing, body characteristics or voice, and which may or may not conform to socially defined behaviors and characteristics typically associated with being either masculine or feminine.


A person who does not identify with a single fixed gender or has a fluid or unfixed gender identity.


The fear and hatred of or discomfort with people who are attracted to members of the same sex.


Intersex people are born with a variety of differences in their sex traits and reproductive anatomy. There is a wide variety of difference among intersex variations, including differences in genitalia, chromosomes, gonads, internal sex organs, hormone production, hormone response, and/or secondary sex traits.


A woman who is emotionally, romantically or sexually attracted to other women. Women and non-binary people may use this term to describe themselves.


An acronym for “lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer” with a "+" sign to recognize the limitless sexual orientations and gender identities used by members of our community.


An adjective describing a person who does not identify exclusively as a man or a woman. Non-binary people may identify as being both a man and a woman, somewhere in between, or as falling completely outside these categories. While many also identify as transgender, not all non-binary people do. Non-binary can also be used as an umbrella term encompassing identities such as agender, bigender, genderqueer or gender-fluid.


Exposing someone’s lesbian, gay, bisexual transgender or gender non-binary identity to others without their permission. Outing someone can have serious repercussions on employment, economic stability, personal safety or religious or family situations.


Describes someone who has the potential for emotional, romantic or sexual attraction to people of any gender though not necessarily simultaneously, in the same way or to the same degree. Sometimes used interchangeably with bisexual.


A term people often use to express a spectrum of identities and orientations that are counter to the mainstream. Queer is often used as a catch-all to include many people, including those who do not identify as exclusively straight and/or folks who have non-binary or gender-expansive identities. This term was previously used as a slur, but has been reclaimed by many parts of the LGBTQ+ movement.


A term used to describe people who are in the process of exploring their sexual orientation or gender identity.

Same-gender loving

A term some prefer to use instead of lesbian, gay or bisexual to express attraction to and love of people of the same gender.

Sex assigned at birth

The sex, male, female or intersex, that a doctor or midwife uses to describe a child at birth based on their external anatomy.


An umbrella term for people whose gender identity and/or expression is different from cultural expectations based on the sex they were assigned at birth. Being transgender does not imply any specific sexual orientation. Therefore, transgender people may identify as straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, etc.


A series of processes that some transgender people may undergo in order to live more fully as their true gender. This typically includes social transition, such as changing name and pronouns, medical transition, which may include hormone therapy or gender affirming surgeries, and legal transition, which may include changing legal name and sex on government identity documents. Transgender people may choose to undergo some, all or none of these processes.

Back to School Queer Survival Guide

The start of a new school year can be nerve-wracking and difficult for anybody, but can especially stir up a whirlwind of emotions for TQ2S+ youth, who continue to face an ever-changing landscape of anti-LGBTQ+ legislation that aims to target their rights to exist as their authentic selves.

We know that in spite of these uncertain times, trans and queer youth have always existed and will continue not only to exist, but grow and thrive in their GSAs, schools, communities and identities.

We believe in the power, leadership, and knowledge that trans, queer, and Two-Spirit+ youth hold, and we have your back- always.

Click here for a guide full of resources to aid you in embracing your unique identities as you navigate this school year, and we can’t wait to see you prosper throughout the year!

Get Trained and Help Us Build a World That's FREE of Harassment!

RIGHT TO BE _____​​​ provide free trainings to the public. Their trainings are oriented to empower you to make a change and channel attention into simple, creative, and effective action. You will find tools to learn how to respond, intervene, and heal from harassment (LGBTQ​, BIPOC, Ability, Gender, Expression, etc.).

We want to empower you with with the resources you need to take care of yourself and others because we believe we all have the right to be who we are, wherever we are.

These trainings are available to you and your friends and/or family. The staff at Family Assistance Program’s Stop the Hate project and our other programs at Family Assistance Program are available to work with young people 14 to 25 years old to and adults to address the trauma, basic needs, navigating a sometimes overwhelming service system, or provide access therapeutic or peer support.

Being targeted with harassment because of your race, sex, religion, color, gender, size, orientation, disability, age, or origin is demoralizing and can impact our lives in many ways. But being targeted while surrounded by bystanders who see what’s happening, but then do nothing, can make us feel even more isolated and alone… It doesn’t have to be that way… You can make a choice to actively and visibly take a stand against harassment. The 5D’s are different methods you can use to support someone who’s being harassed, emphasize that harassment is not okay, and demonstrate to people in your life that they too have the power to make our communities and workplaces safer.

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If you’ve experienced harassment, let us be clear: it’s not your responsibility to have prevented or responded to it. There is no “right” or “perfect” response to an uninvited and violating action, comment, or gesture. We’ve learned, though, that having some response, whether in the moment or afterward, significantly reduces the long-term trauma of harassment for those who’ve experienced it. Right to Be provide training programs that can help you respond in empowering ways

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Conflict De-escalation requires patience, a willingness to listen, and an agility to see the humanity in everyone, even those we don’t agree with or who seek to hurt us. Using Right to Be’s Observe-Breathe-Connect methodology, our trainings teach you how to identify potential conflict before it escalates using our “pyramid of escalation” and how to assess whether intervening is the right action.

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It’s safe to say we’re living in challenging times. To help you cope, we’ve developed training on building personal resilience. Right to Be’s resilience trainings are one-hour, experiental learning-based, and interactive. You’ll learn how to author your own resilience using Right to Be’s resilience methodology: sit with what is, create your story, and be in choice.

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Contact us if you have any questions about Stop the Hate program ( or other Family Assistance Program’s ( other services.

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