It is very important for a person who is going through domestic violence to have an escape plan in case he/she needs to get out of an abusive situation quickly and be prepared for the next step, either to call the police, find a safe place to stay, such as a family/friends house or a shelter. Some of the steps that you can follow are listed below:
- Move to a room with easy access to an exit. Don’t go to the kitchen, bathroom or near possible weapons.
- Know the quickest route out of your home. Practice escaping that way.
- Know the quickest route out of your workplace. Practice escaping that way. Domestic Violence does not just occur in your home.
- Pack a bag and have it ready. Keep it hidden but make it easy to grab quickly.
- Tell your neighbors about your abuse and ask them to call the police when they hear a disturbance.
- Have a code word to use with your kids, family and friends. They will know to call the police and get you help.
- Know where you are going to go, if you ever have to leave.
- Use your instincts.
- Collect all important paper work and keep in save location.
Something to remember:
After the last telephone call you make before you leave your house dial your own telephone number and hang up (if your abuser hits redial he will continue to get a busy signal and have no idea who you last spoke with).
If you have e-mail accounts you may want to either cancel the account and create a new account
Change all passwords and pin number for your accounts
Be careful with cell phones they can be tracked to the location where you are currently at and where ever you go.
Change your cell phone number or get a different phone all together.
Here’s a checklist of things you need to take when you leave.
- Driver’s license, car title, and registration
- Children birth certificates
- Your birth and marriage certificates
- Money, credit cards, ATM card, telephone card
- Injunction order
- Lease, rental agreement, house deed
- Checkbooks, bank books, and withdrawal slips
- Health insurance or medical card
- Insurance papers
- House and car keys
- Medications or prescriptions
- Small objects you can sell
- Address book
- Medical records for all family members
- Social security card for self and children
- Welfare identification
- School records
- Work permits
- Green card/immigration papers
- Passport(s), for yourself and children
- Divorce papers, including custody order
- Pets, if you can. (Call a Humane Society for possible assistance.)
- Children small toys
- Other ___________________